I first heard about Hypnobirthing from my best friend who was living in Singapore at the time. We were pregnant at the same time. Me with my second and her with her first.
IS THIS SOME KIND OF CON….?
To be honest, it sounded like a bit of a con to me! I had already had a calm and gentle home birth with my first baby and all I did to prepare was to get clear on my mindset such as doing daily affirmations – ‘women give birth every day so I should be able to too’ and being aware that working with the pain rather than against it would help me. I also somehow knew that being at home would help me to feel more confident and comfortable because I would be in my own environment.
THE CHOICE TO BIRTH AT HOME…
I came to the conclusion that if I laboured and birthed at home, I would be able to maintain control and take comfort in the familiarity of my own space, and be able to climb into bed after, enjoying family cuddles afterwards (gorgeous!!). Now that I can look back at it, it was my fear of things in hospitals not always providing the happy ending I was looking for and in my mind, it being a sterile cold place unlike my warm and comfy bedroom.
THERE IS SOMETHING IN IT…..
I tend to associate hospitals with sickness and I wasn’t sick! (that’s a whole other blog post!!), despite knowing with my rational brain that hospitals heal the sick and that doctors, nurses and midwives do amazing work every day. Over the years though, it became more and more apparent that there was something in this hypnobirthing lark! When my best friend discussed her birth with such amazing clarity and evangelism (no pain relief!!) and other women that I knew where starting to talk about it too in very positive terms.
TIME TO DO SOME RESEARCH…
Time to do some research! I bought three books. Hypnobirthing by Marie Mongan (the god mother of HB by the way!), Ina May Gaskin’s guide to childbirth which was full of amazing birth stories and the other was a book by guy called Grantly Dick-Read the originator of the concept that women had the ability to birth without fear and distress. After reading these, things begun to make sense.
So by the time my pregnancy with baby number three came around I was fully armed with information and knowledge. This coupled with reading about the experiences of women often in countries or cultures so different from the medicalised experience that is sold to us in Western society, I really began to believe, that through educating myself about the actual physiology of labour and birth and by using helpful techniques like visualisation, and breathing I could create a birthing experience that would be positive for me and a stress free experience for my baby, preferably in the comfort of my own home.
A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE IN HOSPITAL…
As I have discussed, my third baby had other ideas about how her birth would play out, as I gave birth to her in hospital. It was an amazingly positive experience and I truly believe that the reason for this is the Hypnobirthing techniques that I learned. My fear of hospitals did not derail me as it could have done and this was only possible because I made sure I was fully prepared and ready through the use of Hypnobirthing.
If you would like to learn more about how Hypnobirthing can help you – drop me a message. I would love to discuss it and see if we are a good fit for working together.