So you need to Chill out? Here’s how…

Hello Beautiful One,

Finding ways to relax can be a bit of a mine field at times. Relaxation means different things to different people and so what I find relaxing might be the least relaxing thing of all time for someone else! That being said, though, there are some things that universally help calm the body and the mind and when you are carrying a new life inside you, finding ways to connect to yourself is even more important. The thing is as a mum to three kids, finding relaxation time is one of my top priorities in life.

Why is it important to relax? There are a few reasons….our stress levels are greatly reduced when we find relaxation and our mental health can deteriorate if there is not enough time spent on winding down and chilling the eff out! These things don’t have to cost the earth either. This is not about spending loads of money at a time when the cost of having a baby is enough to make your eyes water!

Don’t get me wrong, stress is a normal part of life, I get it. But if you spend a lot of time stressing then continuous high levels of stress can have a negative impact on you and your baby. So let’s take a look at some of the positive steps you can take towards a more calm and relaxed pregnancy and by default, a more calm and relaxed life.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

Here are my five top tips for finding relaxation

    1. Connection time: Now this can look like anything you like and includes things like meditating, listening to music, writing in your journal or dancing around your kitchen! The key here is to be doing something that allows you to feel connected to yourself and your baby and elevates your mood. My personal favourite is to be outside in nature, walking in the woods or walking along the shore near the sea.
    2. A Spa treatment: If you don’t mind being touched, then a pregnancy massage is a must even if I do say so myself! Soooooo good for releasing any tension that can often build up in the body. Of course if you’re not into the touchy feely stuff then a mani/pedi is also a great treat for yourself (especially when you can’t see those toes any more J).
    3. Exercise: Some gentle exercise will release the endorphins and help you to feel energised. Pregnancy yoga is great or whatever else floats your boat. Maybe take a walk or a lovely swim. In fact, swimming is great for getting baby into the right position for the birth.
    4. Laughter: You might not realise this, but having a good old belly laugh will release all the right hormones that will make you feel so good and so by default, nice and relaxed. Watch your favourite comedian, maybe a box set you like or meet up with friends who you know you can have a giggle with. It works a treat!
    5. Knowledge is power: This is a really important one. When we move towards the unknown, our default response to this is the feel stressed and fearful. The fact that you are reading this blog means that you are already searching for information that will help you to understand what is happening to your body and your baby. The more you know and understand, the more relaxed you will feel about your pregnancy and birth (and that’s a promise!).

These are all brilliant ways to find relaxation, and to be honest the list of tips and ideas can go on and on. What is important is that you try something out however small (or big it may seem) it is important to take action and make the change that you wish to see. And here is a bonus tip: Gratitude. Make time to be grateful for what you currently have in your life right now. You are carrying a new life and that’s fricken amazing!! Being grateful everyday will make you feel good, it will elevate your mood, and it will remind you not to sweat the small stuff.

To get you started I have included a FREE Pregnancy Relaxation and Confidence MP3 for you to download. Listen with headphones as you fall asleep or are resting (not operating any machinery or driving for eg). Listen to it as often as you like to help get you into that nice and calm state of relaxation. Let me know in the comments below what you think or if this has been useful.