What is the comfort zone?
So we have all heard of the comfort zone – right?
It’s that place where we find ourselves psychologically when things feel familiar, things are at ease and our perception of reality is one where we feel in control of our environment.
In our comfort zones, our stress levels and levels of anxiety are usually low and we function in a way that keeps us moseying along.
Why it’s important to move out of your comfort zone
During the month of February, I decided to move outside of my comfort zone and do something a little bit different.
I am a firm believer in growth and development.
For me, the goal is to continually challenge myself, and continually improve because every day is a learning day after all and that’s how I learn new skills.
And so in order for any of us to learn something new, we have to move out of our comfort zones.
Whilst being in my zone of comfort was easy, I was also feeling somewhat stagnant, like I needed something to shake things up a bit.
Shaking things up can present themselves in many different ways and it’s important to ensure that there is some alignment and intended outcome when deciding to do something that feels a little bit stretchy.
My goal was to increase my confidence, grow my audience and of course learn some new things about myself.
I decided to show up every day over on Instagram via live (or pre-recorded) video for the whole month.
You can check out some of them here.
Being an introvert, I have struggled for a while to show up consistently in this way and so I wanted to try it and see how it felt.
Here’s what I learned…
1. It was scary
Leaving your comfort zone is not easy.
Each day the time it took for me to press the ‘live’ button would get shorter and shorter.
If it was easy, everyone would be stretching themselves and doing new things all the time. I have done difficult things before and I had to keep reminding myself of this.
Where have challenges shown up in my life previously? How did I overcome them?
Connecting to that helped me get over the initial fear and reminded me that I wont die by showing up on video online!
Feeling the fear is totally normal and all part of the process and learning to conquer that fear is super important.
2. I see myself in a different way (spoiler alert: This is a game changer!)
When I started the activity of consistently going live or uploading vlog posts I immediately proved to myself that I am capable of achieving more than what I thought was possible.
And so by default, this changed the way I saw myself.
Now, I have way more confidence in myself which then ripples out into other areas of my life.
Now I have a ‘muscle memory’ of stepping out of my comfort zone, which will mean that I am much more likely to continue to step outside of it, proving to myself again and again what I am capable of.
3. I developed a new skill
Showing up on video is not natural for me at all.
As an introvert, it is actually the opposite of where I want to be! However, although this is the case, doing this task meant that I learned some new stuff about video content online.
I learnt about ways to speak and position myself in front of the camera. I learnt about aspect ratios and good lighting, the difference between scripting my vids and going freestyle (I like a blend of both)….
It has been and continues to be a big learning curve, however it is exhilarating and that felt so good.
4. Its okay to be vulnerable
This is a biggie!
Heading into unknown territory can be terrifying.
I know this because my clients tell me this on a regular basis in relation to their labour and births.
Being vulnerable means having some doubt and showing up anyway. Being unsure of the outcome, but taking small steps towards your goal anyway.
Dr Brene Brown says this about vulnerability:
“Vulnerability is the feeling we get during times of uncertainty, risk, or emotional exposure. This includes times when we’re showing our feelings and we’re not sure what people will think….. Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”- Brené Brown
I felt exposed at first, but then I went back to why I was doing this and this helped me to keep going.
Once you can accept being vulnerable as part of growth and learning, things really do get easier.
So….over to you! Does any of this resonate with you?
When I relate these learnings to Hypnobirthing I can see how being in your zone of comfort may stop you from taking the next step.
The thing is… once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.